On Being Unhurried
- Poppy

- Mar 8
- 1 min read
I made a decision recently. To stop moving at the world's pace and start moving at my own.
It sounds simple. It isn't. We're conditioned to respond quickly, perform visibly, stay available. To mistake busyness for value and speed for relevance. I spent years doing exactly that — and the cost was a particular kind of exhaustion that sleep doesn't fix.
So I stopped.
I started reading more. Thinking slowly. Letting silence be productive. Watching what fell away when I stopped filling every moment with noise and obligation — and noticing what remained when I did.
What remained was clarity. A different quality of attention. And a much sharper sense of who and what actually deserves my time. I've become selective in a way I wasn't before. Not cold — selective. There's a difference. Coldness closes. Selectivity simply knows its own worth and refuses to negotiate it downward.

The men I spend time with now understand this instinctively. They're not looking for availability — they're looking for presence. Real presence. The kind that can't be rushed or performed or manufactured on demand. The kind that can only be felt from someone who has truly taken the time — not another person performing. The kind that only exists when both people have chosen to be completely, unhurriedly there.
That's what I offer. Not a transaction. Not a service packaged for convenience. An experience that requires the right conditions — and the right person — to exist at all.
If that resonates, you already know how to find me.
If it doesn't, that's perfectly fine too.
I'm not for everyone. I'm for the right ones.